Thursday, November 12, 2015
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How can I encourage my spouse to keep things tidy after I spend the time organizing them?
This is actually a funny one because of how we handle laundry. I do the laundry for the family and often get irritated when the clothes don't quite make it to the laundry room. We have an upstairs laundry room and it's super easy for everyone to toss their clothes in a hamper. My husband tends to use his closet floor as his "laundry basket." I got tired of nagging and didn't want to cause friction. I made a cute little sign that says, "Your laundry service has been terminated." It's just become a big joke. So if things are really crazy in the closet, I will set that sign on his pile and nothing needs to be said. I'll hear an, "Uh-oh" from the closet and within a day it's totally clean again. The man doesn't want to do his own laundry so he happily complies!- Courtney, A Thoughtful Place
Whenever I finish organizing a space, I show it to Greg and walk him through where each thing goes. Luckily for me, once there’s a “system” in place, he’s really good about sticking with it and putting things back where they go. I think the main key for making this system work (for us) is having a designated place for everything.- Ashley, 7th House on the Left
Usually my husband is so impressed by how clean and simple a newly organized space is, that he sticks to it. Labeling everything, like we did in the Pantry, makes it simple to see where something goes. But if I find PopTarts in the Chip bucket instead of the Breakfast bin, I just move them. Because really, no one else in the family cares as much as I do!- Cassie, Hi Sugarplum!
Bribe him? Hah, just kidding. Kind of. If it were my husband, I'd tell and show him how I've worked hard to create the organization system and it would mean a lot to me if he would follow the plan.
- Chelsea, Two Twenty One
Thankfully, I don't have any problems with my spouse keeping things tidy and organized. He just wants to know where I've moved things!
- Megan, Honey We're Home
Oh how I can relate to this question! I still have no idea how Monica and Chandler made it through to the final season of Friends without a organization-themed divorce. Because let's be honest, there's usually one person in a relationship that loves organizing, and the other one that...well...doesn't. AT ALL. I've personally found following 3 steps works the best in getting your spouse on board:
I try to involve him in the decisions I make when I'm coming up with a new system so that I can make sure that it's something that makes sense & will work for both of us. I try to label stuff (even if it's just a post-it note label) so it's easy to find & easy to remember where to put things back, and I make time to show him how to do stuff if he has to learn something new (like using the delay start on the washing machine, etc.). Keeping the systems as simple & user-friendly as possible make a big difference. For example, when I organized our home brewing kit, we talked about what he wanted out of it, and then when I made it, I labelled everything & traced around each item on the board so that he could instantly see where everything belonged or if anything was missing. He LOVES it now & keeps it organized all the time. We don't go around tracing every item in our house, but the less you have to think about it, the easier it is to maintain!
Bribe him? Hah, just kidding. Kind of. If it were my husband, I'd tell and show him how I've worked hard to create the organization system and it would mean a lot to me if he would follow the plan.- Chelsea, Two Twenty One
Thankfully, I don't have any problems with my spouse keeping things tidy and organized. He just wants to know where I've moved things! - Megan, Honey We're Home
Oh how I can relate to this question! I still have no idea how Monica and Chandler made it through to the final season of Friends without a organization-themed divorce. Because let's be honest, there's usually one person in a relationship that loves organizing, and the other one that...well...doesn't. AT ALL. I've personally found following 3 steps works the best in getting your spouse on board:- Consult them with the problem. Thinking of redoing the pantry or entryway? Talk to your spouse about how they use the space and anything that bugs them about the current set up. That way your spouse has input into the reason for the change and is more likely to stick to the new system.
- Genuinely explain the importance of an organized home to your spouse. Not to get all Oprah on you, but your spouse needs to know why you like things to be organized - you need to give them that 'Aha Moment'. If you explain how an unorganized home/office/car makes you feel stressed/tired/overwhelmed/hungry/insert-other-frazzled-emotion-here, they will understand why their support is necessary.
- Let them have their own space. Whether it's a man room, a shed, or a home office in a cupboard under the stairs - let your spouse have an area where they can be an unorganized and messy as they want. That way they have their own messy kingdom that you can shut the door on and never have to worry about.
If all else fails, just be thankful it hasn't come to this. Quiche anyone?
- Serena, Pretty Fluffy
I know where everything in the house is" said no husband ever. I think that you just need to run your own organizing race and hopefully your spouse will see how nice an organized home is and try to do better. . . Hopefully?
- Ashli, Mini Manor Blog
I know where everything in the house is" said no husband ever. I think that you just need to run your own organizing race and hopefully your spouse will see how nice an organized home is and try to do better. . . Hopefully?- Ashli, Mini Manor Blog
I try to involve him in the decisions I make when I'm coming up with a new system so that I can make sure that it's something that makes sense & will work for both of us. I try to label stuff (even if it's just a post-it note label) so it's easy to find & easy to remember where to put things back, and I make time to show him how to do stuff if he has to learn something new (like using the delay start on the washing machine, etc.). Keeping the systems as simple & user-friendly as possible make a big difference. For example, when I organized our home brewing kit, we talked about what he wanted out of it, and then when I made it, I labelled everything & traced around each item on the board so that he could instantly see where everything belonged or if anything was missing. He LOVES it now & keeps it organized all the time. We don't go around tracing every item in our house, but the less you have to think about it, the easier it is to maintain!(Side note: I have also had to learn to be grateful & appreciate help even when it's done differently than I would do things, because I would rather have an imperfectly loaded dishwasher than no help at all!)
- Casey, Pretty Organized
- Casey, Pretty Organized
I think I lucked out in that my husband's probably more of a clean freak than me, and that's no understatement. We do however work together a lot to problem solve trouble spots in our home and that makes a huge difference. We both have ownership of it. When we're both on board it's a lot easier, but being patient helps in times of conflict. I love this organizing project we worked on together and I learned a lot.- Anneke, This, That & Life
Between the two of us, my husband is the more organized one, so he's the one who has to do the encouraging. We find that humor works far better than nagging in terms of reminding to pick up and put away. It's so much nicer to be asked to do something with a smile. 
It has taken me years to finally come to peace with the fact that my hubby just doesn't have the same organizing and cleaning ambitions that I do. It is such a give and take, as are many things in marriage. By sitting down and agreeing on which one of us owns specific tasks around the house, we have solved a lot of frustrations and problems. And when it comes to organizing, I try to put in solutions that work around his daily habits. I just look at each problematic area as a fun mystery to solve. And if I try to implement a solution that doesn't seem to be working for him, there is no harm in trying again. Of course, it is always a good idea to get their ideas and solutions and input as well. Lastly, it is all about picking your battles. Some things just are not worth mentioning, I am pretty sure he keeps his lips sealed about a few things I do that drive him crazy, so I try to offer the same respect. You can catch more of our answer in the video found in our cleaning plan post here. - Jen, IHeart Organizing
When it comes to organizing, where do you pinch pennies and where do you splurge?
Gosh. I don't think I really splurge. I tend to use what I have. Although the Ikea Expedit is my all time favorite furniture piece. I use them in various rooms in our house. Here it is in my daughter's room. Keeping all of her toys and fun items in the bins makes cleaning up so much easier.One of my favorite projects was my laundry room cabinet. I spent very little and it feels like I spent so much more. I think with some imagination, fun wrapping paper, glass containers, and spray paint . . . you can really create a spot that is pretty and functional.
I try to pinch pennies wherever I can (it really depends on the project) but I normally splurge on baskets. In my book, a good, well-designiged, well-made basket is invaluable to home organization. Quality baskets last forever and you can always use them in different rooms and move them around the house as your needs change.- Ashley, 7th House on the Left
Splurging isn't something I really do, especially if it doesn't make the project better, stronger or more efficient. For instance, I could have bought $100 metal shelves for our Garage, but there was no point when the $20 version from Ikea produced the same results. I'd rather save my pennies everywhere I can at home, so we can spend them on experiences and memories like traveling!
If it's an item I know will get a lot of use or last a long time, I'll spend a little more money. For small things or things that aren't always visible, like file folders or drawer organizers, I'll save my money and go the inexpensive route.- Chelsea, Two Twenty One
I like really good, sturdy baskets and have splurged on them in the past. I think it makes it worth splurging on something when the organizational element becomes part of the decor and you know you'll use it for many years. For instance, I have for coordinating baskets in our mudroom. I like the dark color, the large weave, and the baskets were the perfect size and shape. I bought them at Target.I like to save money on inexpensive magazine storage because you can paint or cover them anyway. In my home office, I covered teal magazine holders with floral gift wrap.
- Megan, Honey We're Home
Things that I scrimp on: Containers - you can often find cheaper containers and storage items at Target, Dollar Stores, Ikea and Stationary Stores. Always think outside the box and see multiple uses for items - like I did with my Stationary Drawer turned Make-Up Kit.
DIY Materials - I'm always working on DIY Projects for Pretty Fluffy. For this reason I HAVE to be frugal when purchasing materials - I always suggest checking out dollar stores for tissue paper, washi tape, glitter etc and buying fabrics and building materials when they're on special (or with a coupon!)
Things that I splurge on:
Linens - nothing beats top quality sheets, towels and home fabrics. They last longer and add an extra bit of luxury to your daily life.
Unique furniture & decorative items - while I'm a big fan of Ikea and cheaper options for furniture basics, I think by having a few unique pieces of furniture (such as my Entryway Wall Mirror) your home stand out as distinctly you.
Quality Stationery - whether it's a personal organiser, thank you notes, or top quality pens; I like knowing my diary and communications stay organised and looking good.
I splurge on built in organization. If it's a drawer or cupboard you will be in everyday, definitely splurge. Great cutlery trays or a pots and pans organizer are totally worth it. I pinch pennies on things I don't use daily. Like cheap totes for Christmas decorations, or cheap organizing systems in the guest room closet.
- Ashli, Mini Manor Blog
I splurge on built in organization. If it's a drawer or cupboard you will be in everyday, definitely splurge. Great cutlery trays or a pots and pans organizer are totally worth it. I pinch pennies on things I don't use daily. Like cheap totes for Christmas decorations, or cheap organizing systems in the guest room closet. - Ashli, Mini Manor Blog
We always try to pinch pennies, but if it's a specialty product that would easily solve a lot of the issues I'm trying to fix, or if it's really beautiful, way more durable than anything I could rig, or more time/cost-effective to buy it, then I'll spend the money. It usually just depends on how many other projects we have going on at the time! I love that we saved so much money fixing up our porch ourselves, but I also really love some of the store-bought solutions we have, like our Ikea storage benches & the pull-out drawers in our kitchen cabinets. I think we usually spend money on the "quick fix" little things & pinch pennies to DIY the bigger projects, where we're saving hundreds of dollars in return for the time we're investing.- Casey, Pretty Organized
I think it's safe to say I pinch pennies on furniture when I can. I occasionally buy new items as seen here in our side table and ottoman, but I definitely find used or refinished items when possible. The chairs in this photo were found on Craigslist, but again, they were literally brand new for half the cost. Score! Dressers, hutches, console tables, night stands....that's my thing. With that said, I don't mind splurging on things like clear totes and containers, baskets, buying a nice label machine, etc. - Anneke, This, That & Life
I penny pinch when it comes to containers and baskets. The dollar store is my best friend! I also try and DIY where I can-- like the remote control pillow and sewing caddy. But when it comes to furniture like bookshelves and dressers, I like to spend a little more, knowing that they will last a long time. - Palak, Make it Handmade
Although we try and save whenever possible when it comes to storage, there are times when I am recovering boxes and times when I am investing in something that I use on a daily basis. I ask myself a few simple questions when determining a budget for storage:- How often will the item be used? If it is a low wear item, then I can most likely try my hand at DIYing it and not worrying about it falling apart a few days later.
- Is the piece versatile? I am a lot more likely to invest in an item that can work in more than one way or in multiple spaces around the home. Our storage and organizing needs are constantly changing, so it is important to invest in versatile storage that can evolve with us.
- How long will we need/use the storage? If the storage is something I foresee us needing for 15 years, then I am willing to throw a little money at it. It is less expensive in the long run if you don't have to replace something every few years. If it is to solve a problem that is just a "phase" in our life, again, I look for something that will be versatile, or we just get out the hammer and drill.
- Jen, IHeart Organizing
What is your favorite tip for staying organized during the holidays?
Definitely purging. Every year, I take what we did not use {decor wise} and donate it. I have learned that it only takes up space. I also keep a planning binder that helps me for parties, packing and presents. I keep a list each year of what I have bought for people. I like to use it as reference and it keeps tabs of how much I spend as well. My memory just doesn't cut it anymore! The party planning paper saves me time and time again. It keeps track of the menu and what needs to be done. For instance, I wrote down details of how we cooked our turkey this year so that when we go to do it next year we don't have to do a ton of research again. It really saves us time.To be honest, our decor storage needs some attention at the moment (haha!), so I’m excited to hear what the other ladies have to say on this one! When it comes to party planning, my Christmas Party Notebook is my right hand man. Inspired by my Grandma (who is a natural-born party thrower), this notebook is where I keep all of my notes, menus, lists, inspiration and information for past parties in one place. I highly recommend making one of these if you throw a holiday party every year - it’s a life-saver! - Ashley, 7th House on the Left
The day after Christmas, I'm ready to have my house holiday-free, and am always tempted to just chuck things in boxes. But instead, I take the extra time and effort to organize the decor in sturdy, plastic bins. I wrap lights and garlands around paper towel tubes, group like ornaments, etc...then label each of the bins. This makes storing them during the off-season easier, and is so nice to discover when the next holiday season rolls around!- Cassie, Hi Sugarplum!
When I'm decorating and putting holiday items out, I'll put the everyday decor items in the box the holiday items are stored in. That way I don't have extra clutter hanging around. When it's time to store the holiday decor, I get the totes out and put the everyday decor back where it belongs.- Chelsea, Two Twenty One
I have learned to put away my Christmas decor in a very organized way so that it's not a mess for the next year. It makes pulling it out that much more fun. I use giant green tubs with red lids and label them.- Megan, Honey We're Home
By personalising online purchases and vouchers you can cut your gift shopping time in half. Remember people LOVE simple, usable gifts. A Netflix or movie voucher in a box of candy is an easy and quick present. The latest edition of their favourite magazine with a subscription filled for 6 months takes 5 minutes to buy and wrap. A voucher for an online cooking school in the pocket of a new apron will be a hit! This way, your friends and family still get thoughtful, personalised presents while you don't have to face the Christmas crowds for days on end.- Serena, Pretty Fluffy
I Christmas shop almost all year round. That way I am not forced into the mall in December. Nothing drains you of holiday spirit faster than a mall parking lot in December. - Ashli, Mini Manor Blog
We have really simplified gift-giving lately. With friends, we've kind of made a rule that we do experiences, not gifts (go out to dinner, etc). With my hubby's huge family, we just draw one person's name from a hat & spoil the bejeezus out of them. It makes shopping a lot easier when you don't have to stress about finding the perfect, thoughtful gift for all 5,000 people in your life! I have a very easy set-up for my gift wrap station, and everything either gets wrapped in white kraft paper or popped in a bag, then I store each group of gifts in a separate storage tub (one for my family, one for Leif's family), so it's easy to grab & go when we are making our rounds. I also try to keep my holiday decorating pretty simple & use things like fabric and printable art that take up almost no storage space.
For holiday meals, we've started doing a "pot-luck" set-up with our families where each person brings one thing, so no one is stuck doing everything!
- Casey, Pretty Organized
- Casey, Pretty Organized
I wish I was of more help here, but we keep things pretty minimal and laid back. I limit our Christmas decor to 2-3 Christmas totes. You know the red ones with the green lids? But really you can use any large storage totes. I wrap our lights around cardboard rectangles with notches on each end and saved a ton of money. - Anneke, This, That & Life
As someone who sews and knits, my best advice for staying on top of things during the holidays is to not take on too much. Starting last year, I took the Happy Holidays pledge-- and pledged to not knit or sew gifts for the holidays. This leaves me with much, much less holiday stress, and much more time for hanging out with family. (I still sew gifts through out the rest of the year, though!) - Palak, Make it Handmade
My new Holiday Planning Binder is rockin' it for us this year! I am loving having everything in one spot, and love even more that I have caught my kiddos and hubby using it and looking through it as well. Pinterest is a great way to keep gift ideas and home decor ideas organized. To find all of my favorite holiday storage solutions, check out this post here.- Jen, IHeart Organizing
What is your favorite tablet or organizing app?
I love my iPhone with all of my being, but I'm just not an app person! Besides email, the calendar and some social media, the only thing I use is the notepad! I'll jot myself notes on projects, restaurants I want to try, and paint colors and measurements for each area in our house.- Cassie, Hi Sugarplum!
I like the Keyring app. It stores all your store loyalty cards so you don't have to fumble through the 50 cards in your purse.- Chelsea, Two Twenty One
I put every important date on my iPhone calendar that syncs to my computer and also to my husband's calendar. I would be lost without my calendar for sure.- Megan, Honey We're Home
I've completely fallen for My Fitness Pal recently. It's an online food an exercise diary that allows you to monitor your health and weight. Not only does it do all the hard work of counting calories (you simply type in what you ate or the exercise you did and it works it out), it also provides really handy information as to whether you're getting enough protein, calcium etc or warning you when you're consuming too much sodium, cholesterol or other nasties. As an added bonus, if you're using it to lose a few pounds, you can enter your goals and each day the app tells you how close you are to achieving them. It keeps my health and diet organized and on track!- Serena, Pretty Fluffy
Ok, I have three favorites: I love OurGroceries for organizing my shopping lists (and you can share it with other people, so they can add what they need & you don't have to text back and forth a million times). I also live and die by my Google calendar (and Google Drive in general), so I love having access to my calendar at all times. I like the Donna app a lot, because it reminds me of upcoming events in my calendar & it can even give me reminders about when to leave and whether I'll need a coat or umbrella for the weather. It has really helped me get into the habit of checking my calendar every night & I am much more prepared for the next day!- Casey, Pretty Organized
I honestly use my basic Notes app just about every day for quick ideas and tasks that need to be done, but I know many that love Remember the Milk and Evernote. My husband and I also use the Mint.com app to stay on the same page with finances since we both manage different areas of our finances. Last but not least for grocery shopping I love Grocery IQ, Meal Planning and Grocery List and Simple Grocery List.- Anneke, This, That & Life
My favorite phone app is Cozi. It's a great time saver since it syncs up across all devices and family members on one account. Although it has lots of features, we use it to keep track of our grocery lists and appointments. It's so easy to update the app on the go or at home, and the apps will synch up automatically whenever there is internet access.- Palak, Make it Handmade
I am guilty of not utilizing my technology to its full potential. As a gal who hates to pay full price for anything, my favorite app for shopping is Retail Me Not, which gives me instant coupons for many of the places we shop. Otherwise, I am a pen and paper girl at heart. - Jen, IHeart Organizing
If you could share one time saving/organizing tip with the world, what would it be?
I really think it's the pocket organizer on our mudroom door. I go to it each and every day. It hosts the children's socks, a hairbrush, my tape measure, a receipt organizer, sunscreen. . . you name it. It keeps us so organized when getting in and out of the house. I switch things out according to the season. Right now a couple of pockets hold winter hats and gloves. I love this organizer and can't imagine our days without it. - Courtney, A Thoughtful Place
I love the kitchen timer method. If you’re having trouble designating time to de-cluttering or organizing a space, try setting a timer for 20 minutes and commit to working on it the entire time until the buzzer goes off. Then set it again for five or ten minutes and reward yourself with a little Pinterest action or a change of scenery by taking the dog out for a quick walk. When the timer goes off again, set it for another 20 minutes and get back to work. You’d be surprised what you can get done in 20 minutes!- Ashley, 7th House on the Left
There is really no one tip, because what works best for me, might not work for you. So my tip is to find the systems that work for your home and family, a system you will actually use and stick to...and keep doing it! It may take some trial and error, but keep tweaking until it's perfect for you. Our Family Command Center went through a few growing pains before it finally molded into an efficient and helpful space for us!- Cassie, Hi Sugarplum!
Use a planner, whether it's on your phone or an actual pen and paper planner. I'd be lost without mine.- Chelsea, Two Twenty One
Hands down, my Master List saves my life on a weekly basis and I calendar everything! The idea behind the master list is to do a "brain dump" onto paper and then sort it into categories. The brain dump allows me to stop worrying about one item or whether I'm forgetting something. I draft mine on the computer, then print it out, updating it weekly. I'm old fashioned in that I like this paper list and I feel so good crossing things off my list. - Megan, Honey We're Home
Robotic Vacuum Cleaners are a great investment. Truly. I'll admit I used to think that they were some sort of Back-to-the-Future type kitschy invention (thank God they don't run on Plutonium or lightening), but can now say I'm a happy convert. You simply switch them on (or schedule them!) and let them work their magic. My little robot saves me hours per week in cleaning, and keeps my floors looking like new on a daily basis (and with a Border Collie constantly running around, that's no easy feat). I'll admit they are an investment, but I see it as investing in all the time you get back to do other, more enjoyable, things. - Serena, Pretty Fluffy
My number one organizing tip would have to be: organize it where it drops. Putting hooks for backpacks in the mudroom but your kids come through the front door and drop their backpacks makes no sense and you will just end up frustrated. The best chance is to organize things where they land. A console table with a bowl in the exact spot your husband drops his keys everyday. A hook by the front door to hang your purse. Things like that. - Ashli, Mini Manor Blog
Do it when it's easy. Add stuff to your calendar as soon as you find out about it so you don't forget. Fill up your gas tank when you're already out running errands & still have a quarter tank so you don't have to worry about it when you're trying to get somewhere on time. Lay out your clothes & put your stuff by the door the night before so you're not running around grabbing stuff when you have to leave. I'm really working toward becoming more proactive in general -- it requires a lot of willpower, but the payoff is SO worth it when you can feel relaxed and prepared instead of running around putting out fires all day long! (If anyone has any tips for ways that help you work ahead on things, I am all ears!) - Casey, Pretty Organized
As humans, I believe we can feasibly only take on so much. There is a balance of knowing how much you can manage without it managing you. If you're life is being overtaken by the "things" or "tasks" of your life, you need to either reduce those things and/or let something/someone else help you. Be willing to let go of things or control. I know there's more to the nitty gritty of it all, but for example: My husband just last week was going through yet another moving box. He asked if I could go through them, because they had some of my magazines in them. I had to make a choice. We couldn't just let them keep sitting there, I didn't have the time {priorities}, so I told him to just toss them so I couldn't even remember what I was "missing out" on.
- Anneke, This, That & Life
- Anneke, This, That & Life
Stay inspired! Perusing blogs like IHeart Organizing help me keep motivated and keep me from feeling alone in my battle against clutter. I pick up so many great ideas and time saving tips that it brings the joy back into organizing! - Palak, Make it Handmade
Spend 15 minutes at the end of the day to pick up the house. So simple yet often forgotten and overlooked. 15 minutes is not a lot of time to do a full house sweep, picking up pillows in the living room, wiping down the bathroom with a cleaning wipe, wiping down the kitchen and taking care of any piles. I like to start my day with a clean slate, it clears my mind and sets me up for success!- Jen, IHeart Organizing
A giant THANK YOU goes out to each of the contributors who provided so much inspiration to us all in 2013, and for taking time to answer these questions today! I always say, twelve heads are better than one, and these gals think of everything! So blessed to have them on my team and part of my life.
Thank YOU to all that participated and took time to ask questions. I have kept note of all of the commonly asked questions, so if they weren't answered today, that doesn't mean I won't address them in the future.
Now it is your turn to weigh in and share your answers in the comments below. Any favorite apps? How about favorite sanity saving tips we should all know about?
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